A tactic is defined as a maneuver for achieving a specific goal. In this instance, your goal is winning your ex back and repairing the underlying cause for breaking up.

1.) To start, you’ll have to gradually ease her back inside your relationship. A wound won’t heal instantly. Some time is required to heal a damaged relationship.

Instead of attempting to repair things as fast as possible, you’ll have to figure on a month to let things cool off. While you’re waiting, you should be sizing up the relationship itself. Think about issues such as whether you really do want her back and personal changes that you will make to get the relationship to work.

2.) When this cooling off period is over, you’ll have to find a way to open up the channels of communication once again. It is vital that you build up a good degree of comfort and ease with her. This basically means being a good friend and being able to converse with her in a way that is relaxed.

You shouldn’t have any discussions on serious issues that place pressure on her. Now is not the time to be talking about the separation or other serious relationship issues. There will come a time for this type of talk but it will have to be at a later stage.

If it’s too difficult to become friends, then you may need to allow a longer time for her to cool down. However, a month should be the limit. Too much time apart will cause your ex to adapt or get too comfortable with a life that doesn’t include you. It also increases the odds of another love rival to come into her life.

3.) A time will come when the issue of continuing the relationship will have to be discussed. This will be a very nerve-wracking moment. Nevertheless, you can’t be squandering excessive time with her as a friend. If there’s no possibility of getting her back, you’ve got to find this out so that you can move on.

Don’t place too much expectation in her being agreeable with coming back. A non-committal response means that the possibility of continuing your relationship still exists in her mind. It’ll only require more time for her to decide one way or the other.

4.) A tactic to try out is to exploit something that everyone has done at one point or another. What I’m talking of is the inclination that we all have to play back emotional events several times over in our heads. When a person says something that induces a very powerful emotion, we like to replay that moment over and over in our minds.

This is the way that we process feelings that we have about a specific emotional circumstance. Usually, this happens when a person suddenly makes a snide comment that seems to come out of the blue. But, this phenomenon can also be induced with a totally unanticipated compliment.

For this to work, you will have to provoke a very strong positive emotion. This will have to be a compliment or gesture that she normally wouldn’t expect to get out of you.

If you do this correctly, she will be savoring this over and over in her head when she’s alone. The good emotions that she has about you will get reinforced with each “replay”. You’re not likely to induce this state more than a few times, but that is all you’ll need.

With skill, these tactics should help a lot in your campaign to get your ex back.

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