It can be quite a challenge to salvage a failed relationship. You’re on pins and needles; one wrong move and the guy or gal of your dreams could be out of your life for good.

The techniques we’re going to cover her may at first seem like exactly the wrong way to go about things. While this may be the case, it is true that a lot of the things which your instincts tell you about how to behave after a breakup are all wrong. It is when you feel like getting in touch with your ex that you should make sure to keep away from them - and when you feel the most like opening your heart to them may help, this is when you need to keep cool.

Just as a word of warning, these techniques may seem all wrong at first. However, they have been tried and tested and have been proven to work in many cases.

Counterintuitive Technique #1

The first step is to accept the situation - you have been broken up with and you need to come to terms with it. You might have to struggle with yourself at first, but acceptance is important.

However, you have to accept the situation. Your ex will need space if they are to start missing you and think about taking you back. Right after the breakup, they are probably upset or angry with you; you need to back off and leave them alone for a while. If you badger them about getting back together, this will probably ruin your chances of a reunion.

Counterintuitive Technique #2

Secondly, you have to cut off all contact. You may think I’m completely off base here; you may even be thinking about leaving this page - just hear me out. This technique really does work! The space helps you and your ex to both step back and get a clear head - and your ex may start missing you in the meantime.

You’re also giving your ex time to start missing you and time to think about the breakup. Having this space is good for both of you and will give you a clearer perspective. This space also prepares you for the third step.

Counterintuitive Technique #3

Next, plan an event where you can try to reconnect with your ex. However, this is complex and there are many steps which must be taken care of in between.

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