Breaking up is not easy, and being dumped is always harder. If you have been dumped without any reason, it leaves you clueless. You start asking yourself whether you have failed him in some respect or the other, whether he got bored of you or got himself a new girlfriend!

There could be various serious or trivial reasons for the break-up. However, you could always be a little optimistic and look forward to getting back with your guy!

Staying Calm.

First, don’t act like a fool when he breaks up with you, acting desperate just fuels their ego. Bite your tongue and go along with it, as difficult as it may be. You may even suggest that you were thinking of breaking up yourself, this will throw him off guard.

However, after the break-up do not rush into making him rethink his decision. Take some time and think for yourself, do you want to re-enter into a serious relationship with this person? He might dump you again, are you prepared to overlook that? Will such a relationship be emotionally fulfilling?

Now is the time to put things in perspective and think it through. If you decide you really do want him back then play it cool. Strategy is the way to get your ex boyfriend back not desperation.

Interact, but smartly. The sanity thing is very important.

Send him a short letter saying that you understand and respect his decision and you think some time apart may be good for you. Keep your emotions in check, be straight to the point, and don’t get emotional. Let him know that you are available to talk if he wants to but let him contact you, just put a phone number or email address in the letter and leave it at that.

Don’t expect a call or an email right away, in fact, go out for a few days and don’t even check it at first. If he does call you, you don’t want him to think you have been waiting by the phone all this time. If he wants to talk to you, he will call you back.

On the other hand, if the guy continues ignoring your presence- it might be that he is thinking over things properly. Give him the time he requires instead of butting in. The reason for break-up was perhaps the need for some space. Respect that decision of his and give him the time he needs.

You Still Have a Life, Live It!

Do not moan and whine about your past relationship. Many go through this difficult stage of life. Take it in your stride and move on, life has better things to offer. Go out and have fun with your friends instead of staying cooped up at home. This change of your mindset might even affect your ex boyfriend positively, and thus make him reconsider his decision to break up with you!

Men, in general, have a fascination for those very things they can’t get- and hence, if he sees you moving on without him, he could come back and beg for a second chance. The ball is in your court now- you have to take the decision! Go out and enjoy life instead of wasting it over someone who is not always worth it.

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